Thursday, March 11, 2010

What kind of Discipline..

"Discipline is a symbol of caring to a child. He needs guidance. If there is love, there is no such thing as being too tough with a child. A parent must also not be afraid to hang himself. If you have never been hated by your child, you have never been a parent"

  As a new mother I am trying to learn ways to discipline Kerhia to raise her into a nice young lady with great manners. We are learning the methods that work and don't work. One thing that I have realized as a parent is that you have to be open to new ideas. I always find myself reading other mom blogs to see what they do in a situation and how it works out for them. I love to read books on how to raise children and ones that others mothers write just about there everyday life. It makes my life seem normal!
  A big question recently came up with my discipline. Kerhia is going through the wonderful stage of hitting people. I will give you a little background on Kerhia's personality. She is very outgoing, doesn't seem to ever meet a stranger, loves attention and will do everything it seems to push your buttons. One thing that I have started to learn with Kerhia is that time out does not work yet, yelling doesn't phase her and light spanking will grab her attention for me to get her to listen to me. She was playing at the hot dog "MOV's kids playground" and she loves the frog they have there. Well another little girl came up and touched the frog. Kerhia then decided to smack the girl as hard as she could to get her to not touch the frog. I picked her right up and she went into a tantrum and wouldn't focus her attention to me. So then I gave her bottom a little tap just enough to let her know I was serious I needed her to listen to me. Well another mother had the nerve to mumble "She wouldn't hit if she wasn't hit at home!" She is lucky that I just walked away I could have shared some unfriendly comments on that one! I do see her point that it maybe confusing her a little but what do you do when that is the only way to grab your daughter's attention? I can't have her hitting other children or me!
  I would never ever spank my kid where there was a mark. I think that is excessive and should not be done. I don't think that a child should be spanked so they feel pain or have fear. I think it should be controlled to a point of them knowing you are serious. All I am wanting to do is raise a well mannered christain child.
Obviously, the mother who said something to me does not have well mannered children because just her statement to shows the lack of respect.

Sunday, March 7, 2010

Everyone loves a Giveaway!

Another mother's blog that I follow is having a giveaway on her blog! I truly follow this mother's blog and love to read what she always has to say!

When I read about this giveaway I knew I had to participate. She is giving away the Deluxe Edition- "The Jesus Storybook bible". Corey and I have been trying to find a great way to begin to introduce the bible to Kerhia. Grabbing a child's attention on something so serious I believe needs to start at a young age. After reading her blog entry I knew right away that this way a must have in our household! She sold the book to me perfectly! Corey is now working a job that doesn't always allows Sundays off so we barely get to attend church which a big deal to me, I have always wanted church to be a big part in raising our kids. So hopefully with prayers Corey will be able to find a job that will better allow us to give our girls that opportunity.

Well back to the giveaway, if you are interested in finding a book that better explains the bible to a young child, I would definitely read her blog post about this book and have a chance to win it! I know if we are not the winners, I will purchase the book to give it a try!

Friday, March 5, 2010

Must "haves" for a newborn.

Here are a few things that I think are a must have now for newborns that aren't on the lists when you google. I would love to have feedback on this post on what you think is a must have in your household. With Mia's arrival approaching soon I want to make sure I am prepared to be a mother of two beautiful little girls.

1. Bobby pillow: is a horseshoe shaped pillow that has multi-purposes from birth to about the age of one. It is great for nursing so that it is relief on a mother's back and arms. You can also lay the baby on his or her stomach to give them time to work on holding their head up and work the muscles needed. It is machine washable and dryable! Tons of slipcovers to pick from as well to change up the style.

2. Hooter Hider: For nursing mothers this a great solution! No more worries about the blanket falling while breast feeding and everyone seeing what you were trying so hard to cover. They come in all kinds of different designs and don't look like a big bulky cover up. It is made with a light-weight material so overheating for the infant and you are not a concern. You can also use the light- weight hooter hider for a blanket or sun cover up when needed.

3. The baby sling: Is used from newborn-toddler aged children. No worries about buckles or any loops. It is all material, so then again you have so many beautiful patterns to choose from. Easy way of getting a baby in and out. Helps support weight of a child to help mothers carry with out back and arm strain. Has ways of keeping a newborn close to the body so that they still have the snug feeling as before. Easy to move around while shopping instead of pushing a stroller through aisles.
4. Mommy hook: With all the bags you have to carry after having children it is a complete pain trying to get your purse, diaper bag and shopping bags in and our without dropping something. With the mommy hook you can hook your bags onto it and easily snap on to the stroller. When getting back into the car you unsnap the hook and all bags stay on hook for easy carrying into the house.
5. Crib rail protectors: We bought the 3 in 1 crib for Kerhia and thought that was the best idea ever. Except we did not know Kerhia would eventually become a little beaver and chew the rail of her crib like crazy. So now the rail of her crib which will one day be the foot board of her bed is now a chewed up mess! So with Mia we invested in a teething cover for the crib.

These baby items make my top 5 list. What do you think is a must have newborn item in your home?